I didn't forget how to knit
I didn't forget how to knit, but I was afraid I had! I've been gone several days. I got home on Wednesday after dealing with family medical issues. Thank you to my friends here for the support and prayers and my employers for the understanding. Knitters are such warm and thoughtful people.
Now I am wanting to knit socks for everybody who helped me while I was at home. Everybody needs socks, right? I just can't begin to describe how incredibly calming and soothing it was to pick up my knitting for the first time in almost a week and JUST.KNIT.
TWO things to share about human behavior during crisis situations and family illness:
1. People will always behave in a way that is consistent with their TRUE nature
2. It is healthier to focus on the kindnesses than it is to focus on the insensitivity (not easier, just healthier)
I am grateful for help from good friends, but am also surprised at the total silence from those at home I thought I could count on to at least offer encouragement . . . to let me know that they were thinking of us.
Three words that have come to mean the world to me: "Have you eaten?"
What can you do when you don't think you can do anything? Remind me to breathe and sleep and allow me to cry, to yell, to curse. And of course, you can always listen. Just LISTEN.
So much kindness (again, the focus on this) came from unexpected places. From complete strangers.
For those I haven't had a chance to call or email yet, my mom is still in the hospital and my dad, who suffers from dementia, remains home for now. Finally, I couldn't have left for a week unless I had incredible support from my husband. I know that at any time, he can take over all my duties and run everything (in addition to doing his job) -- and do it well!