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Little choices

My Mom 1933-34

We have no choice of what color we're born or who our parents are or whether we're rich or poor. What we do have is some choice over what we make of our lives once we're here.--Mildred D. Taylor

In going through so many levels and layers of genealogical research, the strongest impression I have is that the biggest changes are sometimes a result of what seem in the moment to be small choices -- like the choice my father made to lie about his age in order to join the Army before he was out of high school. The most compelling reason he had was an opportunity to travel and see the world rather than become a coal miner like his father and grandfather. While he was stationed in Tokyo, he met my mother who was on the path of making some choices of her own.

Unfortunately, but probably not unexpectedly for postwar Ohio, my mom wasn't accepted by my American grandmother -- my sisters and I didn't have a relationship with her (or with one of my aunts and my cousins); it's likely I saw her only twice in my entire life. It would have been nice to have known more about my Irish and Scottish ancestry.

My mom is in the hospital right now. She's going to be fine, but she's been in a lot of pain and they're trying to help her with her degenerative disc disease.

what little knitting I've been able to do was on Sunday; I'm swatching for some simple summer tanks.

Turning row (round)

Now I just need to find the time to knit them.

Elsebeth Lavold Cotton Patine


Oh, I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother. This is a great quote about choices. It just needs to add something about how your choices can so affect the people around you too, so choose wisely.

Hope your mum's pain management works well.

I hope they are able to help your mother with her pain.

Such a shame they missed knowing you and you them from your family not taking the interest to get to know your mother before passing judgment.


LOVE the photo of your mom!!!!

What a gorgeous photo of your mom.

This is a great post. Both major and mundane choices shape our lives. How interesting that you've plotted some of these decisions that have lasting effects through generations.

Hoping your mom finds some pain relief...

It's good to remember about how little choices can really be the biggest ones!

I hope your mom is feeling better soon.

You have so many wonderful family photos!

That is a fabulous quote and just what I needed to hear this morning!

Another great post. I love the photo of your mother. My mother also suffers from degenerative disc disease. I hope your mother finds help for her pain.

It's funny that way isn't it? My dad, who is black, met my Chinese mom and they got married a few years later...and had only been in person twice before then. Neither one of their mothers came to the wedding and only one of my mom's sisters came. Acceptance is a hard thing. But they've all come together now; but I can't imagine what it would be like to not know a whole side of your family because of prejudice or misconception. It's truly her loss for not knowing what a beautiful family that her son created.

Sometimes our inability to accept the differences and also the samenesses in each other ends up being one of the most hurtful and destructive things we humans can do to each other... my husband's grandmother just passed away and we are watching some of the old family secrets, hatreds and miscommunications melt away with sadness and regret for not getting back in touch after that fight in 1942, for not accepting some of the decisions she made in her life, etc etc, and now, suddenly, after her death, when it is too late, they bring their stories to us.

It is truly one of the things that makes me the saddest about how we treat each other, and if we are able to treat people we say we love this way, what about the rest of the planet. It is something I think about a lot and wonder if we (the human race) will ever be able to take the word Acceptance at face value and believe it, and act on it... Hope your mum is better soon!

Our family history really does reveal alot and directs where we are today, but definitely doesn't have to determine our future!!

I pray that your mother is not in a lot of pain and will get out of the hospital soon to be with her love ones!

Ooh thanks for the link tot he perfect sweater pattern too! I have known about the hemline but haven't done it yet! Looking good!

It is good to hear that your Mom is doing better. She has been in my thoughts. The words you have written are very thought provoking and I love the image of your Mom in her youth. That image along with what you've written / shared is a treasure.

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